For whatever reason, your boyfriend has broken up with you. You’re shocked and grieving, and all you can think about is wanting him back.
But is there any possibility of him returning? Can you truly ever be together again? The answer is yes – but only if you play your cards right.
Here’s how to get your ex-boyfriend back when he broke up with you.
How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back When He Broke Up With You
Stop Chasing, Begging, And Pleading
This sounds counterproductive, but it’s crucial and it works. When you repeatedly beg, plead, and cry after your ex-boyfriend, it reeks of desperation. It makes you look insecure and weak and will just be more proof of why the relationship must end.
It’s important to understand that people don’t end relationships for no reason. Your ex-boyfriend broke up with you because he felt trapped.
He saw that his best method to obtain happiness was to leave that situation. Trying to keep him trapped will just increase his panic and drive him away.
So no matter how much you want to, quit the begging and whining. It won’t help you and will just ruin your chances of getting your ex back. He needs space to breathe, think, and feel. Give him that space!
All breakups should be followed by a period of no-contact. It’s a healthy way to allow both parties to process their emotions and get back in touch with reality.
This no-contact period lets you have time in your life to focus on yourself. It also gives your ex-boyfriend a chance to truly, properly miss you. This includes blocking him on social media. No stalking allowed!
Besides, let’s face it – he broke up with you, so he’s not going to be the first one to reach out. Prevent yourself from falling into desperation by cutting yourself off before you start texting him!
Assess The Breakup And Your Part In It
It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make trouble in a relationship. You and your ex-boyfriend likely both did things that harmed the relationship. Take this time away from him to reflect on your actions.
This is a great time to work on yourself so you have personal growth. Your improvement will show your ex-boyfriend that you’ve changed for the better.
When you do get to reunite, it’ll also increase the chances of things working out the second time around!
Do Things That You Love
It’s easy to get swept up in bad feelings when you’ve been broken up with. Give yourself things to do and look forward to. Get back to an old hobby you’ve neglected or start looking for new ones.
When you’re happy, that fact shines through. Spending time on the things you love will ignite your passion for life and make you happier.
The great bonus is that it’ll also make you more attractive to your ex (and to other people)!
Build Your Confidence
Break-ups can take a toll on your confidence and self-esteem. You need to focus on yourself in order to build those traits back up again.
Think about your strengths, capabilities, and good sides that make you valuable and unique.
Confidence is attractive. Being sure of yourself and feeling like a complete, worthy individual will entice your ex-boyfriend to return to you!
Be Who He First Fell For
Think back to the person you were when your ex-boyfriend fell in love with you. What was it that they liked so much? Was it your sense of style?
If so, maybe you should post some photos in your best outfits! Was it your great jokes? Then find your sense of humor again! These things captured his heart the first time and they can do it again.
Disclaimer here! If you’ve really changed entirely since you first met, that’s totally fine. You don’t need to change who you are to win your ex-boyfriend back.
No one is worth that. But if you do want to be that person again, you can be, both for him and yourself.
Spend Time With Loved Ones
Your loved ones are an amazing support group and can be there for you through this difficult time. They’ll help you to heal as you reaffirm your identity around them and your self-confidence will be restored.
Time spent with those you love will help you recreate the person you were when you started dating.
You’ll be happier, healthier, and less desperate as your social life is filled. Plus, they’ll make sure you don’t go around texting or calling your ex!
Be Open To Casual Hangouts
When the time comes for you and your ex-boyfriend to talk again, keep things casual. Hang out in neutral, open areas that have no romantic connotations. This casualness can make him open up to you again as he feels safer and safer around you.
People hate the friendzone, but if it’s a zone of genuine friendship, it’s actually a great place to be. You get to share an intimate bond with your ex without the pressures of romance.
As you reaffirm your connection platonically, you’ll increase the chances of him falling in love with you again. After all, great romances are built on the stuff of true friendship!
Get Back Into The Dating Scene
You shouldn’t go straight into a rebound relationship after a break-up. But, eventually, you should get back into the dating scene – even if you want your ex-boyfriend back.
As you move on to new people, your ex-boyfriend will see how much you’re progressing.
This can make him jealous and push him to take the final step to reunite with you.
Know When It’s Time To Move On
The sad fact is that not all relationships are fixable. There comes a point where you have to be reasonable. Are you really going to be able to get together? Or are you just beating a dead horse at this point?
The best part about moving on is that it doesn’t have to spell the end for the two of you. Sometimes, moving forward and growing separately is what the relationship truly needs.
If the universe decides to bring you back together, that moving on will have made you both into a better fit for each other.
So even though it’s scary, try to be realistic about getting back with your ex. If your problems aren’t fixable or if one of you is happier broken up, be wise enough to cut your losses. Trust that what’s meant to be will be!
It’s funny to think about how in order to win your ex-boyfriend back, you have to stop focusing on him.
But that’s the simple truth! You can’t fix what is broken by trying to smash the pieces back together.
You have to re-evaluate those pieces, reshape them, and rebuild yourself all on your own. That’s when your ex-boyfriend will see what he’s been missing!
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