No matter how much you like a guy, it can be so terrifying shooting your shot with him! There is always the fear of rejection looming overhead, and you don’t want to ruin things between the two of you, but you don’t want to let him get away either.
Shooting your shot, and it working, can be really great for both of you, but you might feel that you need a little bit of help to actually make the first move.
How To Shoot Your Shot With A Guy
There are a few different ways you can shoot your shot with a guy, and it will really come down to the relationship between the two of you, and what you feel comfortable with. It might mean sliding into his DM’s or asking him to meet you for coffee after class.
To help you find the perfect way to shoot your shot, we have listed some of the best ways to do so, as well as some tips to help you do it confidently!
How You Can Make The First Move
How you decide to shoot your shot with the guy you are crushing on will depend on a few things. Do you only interact online? Do you see each other at college? Is he in the same social group as you?
To decide which would be the best way to make your move, you need to consider what would make the most sense and what you feel comfortable doing.
Here are some great ways to shoot your shot with a guy…
Slide Into His DM’s
Sliding into someone’s DM’s gives you a fairly easy way to approach them online, and might be a better option if you are too nervous to approach them in person. It also makes the most sense if you have only really interacted with them online and not in person.
You do have to think about how you can stand out when sliding into his DM’s, and how he will take notice of you. Send him a message about his last post or story, or anything that might be relevant to him, which will definitely catch his attention.
Hopefully, he picks up on this and the conversation flows naturally from there!
Pay Him A Compliment
Guys don’t always receive compliments, and not nearly as much as what women do. Chances are, if you pay him a compliment, he will definitely notice and he will pay attention to you.
Finding a compliment to give him won’t be hard if you are crushing on him. He will most likely love being complimented by you, and it might make him see you in a new light. He might never have considered you felt a certain way about him, and by complimenting him, you could be showing that you are interested in something more.
Don’t Overthink, Just Do
If you spend all your time trying to work out how to shoot your shot, and you overthink every scenario, you might scare yourself out of doing it, and never actually get around to making a move.
Sometimes, you have to put your inhibitions aside and just go for it. Spending too much time waiting could see him slip through your fingers, and you wouldn’t want that to happen!
Whether it is mustering up the sudden courage to send him a text, or to approach him after class, just do it. It could be the moment of impulsiveness that really pays off for you! The guy you are crushing on can’t read your mind, so you do have to take the initiative to let him know how you feel.
Invite Him To Hangout
This is a great strategy to use if the two of you are in the same social circle, and your only time together is spent with your group of friends.
Ask him if he would like to hang out with you. Whether it is going to a movie, grabbing a coffee, or just going for a walk in the park. By asking him to hang out with you and just you, you will be dropping quite a strong hint that you are interested in him.
Hopefully, he obliges and the two of you get to spend some one-on-one time together. It can be so easy for things to progress from there when you don’t have a group of friends around you acting as a distraction.
Spending some time together also gives you both the opportunity to get to know each other better, to know if there are some sparks between you and if the two of you will be compatible.
Send Him A Text Out Of The Blue
The two of you might talk over text when needed, but it might never go further than this. One way to show him that you are thinking of him is to send him a text out of the blue. This could be a simple “hey, what are you up to?” or asking him how his day went.
This is quite a good tactic if you are still a bit nervous to shoot your shot, as it isn’t incredibly forward, and if he doesn’t respond the way you want to, you can brush it off as just a simple text.
However, the simple text might be the opening he has been waiting for to get into conversation with you, and it lets him know that you were thinking about him!
Buy Him A Drink
Shooting your shot might not always be with someone you know, and you might have come across a guy at a bar or when out and really wanted to get to know him more!
You will have to be bold and brave in these situations, and at least if it all goes wrong, you will probably not see him again.
A good way to shoot your shot is to buy him a drink, and then strike up a conversation over a drink together.
The days of guys making the first move when out are over, and there is no reason that you can’t be the one to shoot your shot. He will probably really appreciate that you have taken the first step, as he might have been too nervous to do so!
Just Let Him Know How You Feel
Be bold and just come out and say it. Let him know that you like him and that there are some other feelings you would like to explore. Let him know that you think he is cute and you would like to hang out. Let him know you have been crushing on him!
Sometimes, coming out and being super direct is the best way to do it. It gives him a very clear indication of how you feel, and maybe this will give him the courage to open up about how he feels about you!
You might feel way out of your comfort zone doing this, but the payoff can be huge!
Escaping The Friendzone
Shooting your shot with a friend can be one of the most daunting experiences. There is the worry that your friend doesn’t feel the same, and coming out and telling them how you feel could ruin your friendship.
There is no simple solution to this. The best you could do is just lay it all out in the open for him, tell him how you feel, but don’t put too much pressure on him to feel the same or to give you an answer straight away.
Many happy relationships start as friendships, so it is something that is worth pursuing if you really do like him.
Rejection – What’s The Worst That Could Happen?
There is always the possibility of rejection, it is just a part of dating and making a move. There is no way to get around this, and at the end of the day, what is the worst that could happen?
He could tell you he isn’t interested, and this might feel like a stab to the heart (and the ego), but then just move on. Take it as a lesson and try not to let it get you down too much.
Being rejected when shooting your shot does not at all mean that you are less of a catch, it just means that he wasn’t the right one for you! You can’t expect every guy to be your prince charming, so don’t let it put you off trying again.
Don’t Wait For The Perfect Moment
There are very rarely perfect moments in life, and this means that you just have to grab any opportunity to shoot your shot.
Just make sure to avoid obviously bad moments, and take one of the first shots you can. You miss all the shots you don’t take, so don’t let waiting for the perfect moment ruin any shot you might have before it is too late.
It does take quite a bit of courage to make a move, but you will be thankful that you did, whether he feels the same or not!