How To Know If Someone Is Thinking About You Sexually (11 SIGNS!)

Sparks seem to be flying between you and someone who’s caught your eye.

You’re pretty sure you can cut the tension between you like a knife.

But how can you be sure that the feeling is mutual and it isn’t just your thoughts running away?

Here’s how to know if someone is thinking about you sexually.

Signs Someone Is Thinking About You Sexually

They Touch You A Lot

A little touch goes a long way when it comes to conveying desire.

When someone is thinking about you sexually, they may try to touch you in subtle ways.

Expect a touch on the arm to linger too long, or for them to brush their leg against yours.

The greater the frequency, the less likely it is that it’s an accident!

They Keep “Fixing” Themselves

There are a number of reasons that the act of fixing oneself may happen. One is because of nervousness.

Another is because they’re having trouble keeping their hands to themselves and keep moving about in the process.

They might also just want to look as good as possible in front of you and keep arranging their appearance. And finally, they may be subconsciously (or consciously) trying to direct your attention to them.

All of these reasons link back to someone thinking about you sexually! This is someone who either wants to impress you or wants to grab hold of you.

You may notice them fixing their hair, smoothing their clothes, or adjusting certain parts of their body.

Someone might also fidget instead by bouncing their leg, fiddling with a random object, or moving around a lot. It’s up to you where you take that next!

They Gravitate To You

When someone has sexual thoughts on their mind, they tend to subconsciously move closer to the person they’re attracted to.

No matter how much distance is initially present between you and that person, you always end up being brought together.

Bonus points if neither of you noticed that you were moving towards each other!

They Compliment You In Specific Ways

Compliments can be a sign of respect or affection, so how do you know if it’s rooted in sexual thoughts?

Someone who’s been thinking of you sexually will likely focus their compliments on your appearance.

They may comment on your figure, facial features, or even parts of your body. 

The specific compliments tend to vary by gender. Men may get compliments on their muscles, hands, or jawlines, for example.

Meanwhile, women may get compliments on their chests, hips, or figure.

And, of course, there are many universal and gender-neutral compliments, like someone saying that you look hot!

The Eye Contact Is Super Direct

There’s polite eye contact, engaged eye contact, and even romantic eye contact. And then there’s sexual eye contact.

Flirtatious stares that stay for seconds longer than the norm say it all.

They may be unable to keep their eyes off you, or they may even already be “undressing” you with their eyes!

Their Voice Changes In Pitch

Subconscious vocal changes happen when someone experiences sexual thoughts. They want to present themselves in a certain way to better impress you.

Men may deepen their voice and women may have their voice rise in pitch a little. This may vary depending on the role the person takes in the conversation.

Still, the change will happen regardless of which way it goes.

Even when it comes to non-heterosexual and nonbinary dynamics, these pitch changes still happen!

Those who tend to take dominant roles may deepen their voice. Those on the other end of the spectrum may brighten theirs.

And again, plenty of people may have different voice changes based on your current dynamic.

Just pay attention and you’ll notice!

They Seem Nervous Around You

When you’re attracted to someone, it’s not uncommon to feel nervous around that person.

After all, you’re extra conscious about your every move and you don’t want to mess things up!

So if someone seems to act a little anxious in your presence, they may have developed feelings for you.

If you’re dressed up extra nice and they seem even more nervous, their thoughts are almost certainly sexual!

Their Eyes Wander

Let’s face it – sexual thoughts are ones that desire visual admiration.

If someone is thinking about you sexually, their eyes may wander to your chest, butt, legs, or even to your crotch.

It’s definitely not subtle at all, but lustful thoughts can be very overwhelming! That person is letting their imagination run wild!

They Lick Their Lips

There are a lot of reasons someone may lick their lips, and one of them is sexual interest.

When someone is thinking about you sexually, they may subconsciously do this behavior because they like what they see.

Extra points if their eyes are also flicking down to your lips as they do so!

They Try To Get You Alone

Someone who keeps trying to get you alone probably wants to do things in private with you. They want you all to themselves!

They might ask you to hang out with them one-on-one or try to make you follow them in public settings.

Don’t be surprised if a spontaneous bit of fun happens behind closed doors!

They Can’t Help But Notice You

When you walk into a room, that person’s attention is immediately on you.

They seem to watch you wherever you go – though not in a creepy way! You may even catch them looking several times.

That’s a sign that this person is thinking about you sexually and can’t even keep their eyes off of you!

To Wrap Up…

It’s not hard to tell if someone is thinking about you sexually. People are rarely subtle when they’re driven by things like that!

And sometimes, sexual chemistry is just really obvious.

If you feel that someone has sexual intentions, chances are that they do! As long as you seek consent before making the first sexy move, you’re good to go with your gut!

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