It can be really difficult for some of us to understand why others don’t want us to succeed. It is even more difficult to accept when it is someone close to you, even family or friends.
You would have put in so much hard work to get to where you are, and while you are proud of your accomplishments and where your path might be leading, others might be trying to stop your success.
Unless someone straight-up comes out and tells you they don’t want you to succeed, it can be confusing determining if someone feels this way or not.
If you suspect someone close to you doesn’t want you to succeed, here are some signs to look for:
Signs Someone Doesn’t Want You To Succeed
They Belittle Your Accomplishments
Someone who is really proud of you, and who wants to see you succeed, will celebrate your accomplishments and be happy for you. Someone who doesn’t want you to succeed will not share this happiness and will try to belittle your accomplishment.
They can do this in a few different ways. They could brush off good news when you tell them and change the topic of conversation quickly, they could make comments about how your achievement isn’t that great, or they might just ignore it altogether.
A person who wants you to succeed will encourage you and give you the motivation to keep going, not make it seem like your accomplishment means nothing.
They Try Control You
Another sign to look for that someone doesn’t want you to succeed is if they try to control you. They might try to change your mind about decisions that will help you progress, or even try to tell you what you can and can’t do.
This is an incredibly toxic trait for someone to have, and they might try to exploit their power over you in order to stop you from moving forward in your life.
Any form of control over someone else is unhealthy, and if you think a person close to you is trying to control your actions and thoughts, it might be time to rethink your relationship with them.
They Are Jealous
Most people try to hide their jealousy, but it often rears its ugly head in many different ways. If there is someone in your life who is jealous of your success, they could try and stop you from succeeding.
One way to tell if this is true or not is to think about how you feel when telling them any good news, or if you avoid telling them any good news because you know they won’t share your excitement.
They would not share the happiness and excitement you would hope for when letting them know about your successes, and they will try to bring you down.
Jealousy can be a very powerful force for some, and it is not difficult to assume that some people could try and stop you from succeeding in your life because they just cannot control their own jealousy of what you have achieved.
They Make It About Them
Your successes are yours, and you should relish in what you achieve. A sign that someone doesn’t want you to succeed is when they make your successes about them, and even play the victim in your success.
This is often a partner who will turn good news of your success into how it will negatively affect their lives, and how they would now have to deal with all the changes that come with your achievements.
These types of people often take more than they receive, and will not give you the same support you would probably give to them.
They Talk Behind Your Back
A toxic person who does not want you to succeed is likely to talk behind your back and try to belittle your success to other people.
They would also use this as a tactic to get other people to think badly about you as well, and possibly even to prevent you from progressing further.
Check to see if someone close to you gossips about other people often, chances are that they might be doing the same thing to you when you aren’t around. They don’t have your best interests at heart, and you don’t need people like that in your life.
They Only See The Negatives
A person who does not want you to succeed will only point out the negatives in your successes.
They will find almost anything to complain about, such as you work too much, your job is too serious, you are too focused on one thing, whatever they can get their hands on.
In a way, this is done to make themselves feel better about not having the same level of success as you, but it is also done to try and make you feel bad about your success and achievements.
They might even feel they need to point out that you have no chance at succeeding and make you feel absolutely tiny, and not good enough to reach your goals.
They Discourage You
Someone who does not want you to succeed will try to discourage you from reaching your goals and from moving forward on your own path. They will tell you, either straight out or subtly, that you are not good enough, you won’t be successful, or you should settle for where you are.
It can be quite difficult to disregard this and not listen to the discouragement, especially if it is someone that you love and trust. Try to see it for what it is though, and don’t let this stop you from moving forward and achieving your goals.
They Point Out Your Failures
All of us experience failure, success is not always a given. Failures help us learn from our mistakes and move forward, and they are not something to harp on about.
If a person constantly points out your failures, in a way that is not beneficial to you, it is a sign that they do not want you to succeed. They want you to be stuck in your failures, and not look forward to your success.
Dealing With Someone Who Doesn’t Want You To Succeed
For when you have someone in your life that does not want you to succeed, you need to be strong and learn to only surround yourself with positive people and those who want you to achieve your goals.
Do not take heed to what they say, and instead focus on your own strengths to keep moving forward!
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