This post is all about the rules you should follow to make a long-distance relationship work
This person might be the love of your life, but due to unfortunate circumstances, you find yourselves miles and miles apart.
However, rest assured that long-distance relationships can work
But there are certain rules you need to follow in order to make a long-distance relationship last…
Make A Long Distance Relationship Work
Have An End In Sight
This is the absolute most important one that many (many!) couples neglect.
Are you doing long-distance indefinitely or will you be merging your two worlds together at some point?
This is important to address!
A long-distance relationship can work, but only if there is a clear finish line.
Whether that finish line is graduation, finishing a job, or deployment; there is a clear and definite end to the separation.
One of you didn’t move away forever with no future indication of being together. If that is the case, the relationship may be doomed as there is no future together.
Sit down (or skype) to discuss where the relationship is going and whether or not you can see each other longterm.
I know it’s a tough conversation to have, but it’s very important.
Trust Each Other
One of the most important aspects of, well, any relationship.
But in long-distance it’s even more crucial. Both for the health of the relationship and your mental sanity.
You won’t be spending Friday nights with your beau so you have to 100% trust each other.
On another note, if you feel like you can’t trust your boyfriend/girlfriend and have to be with them at all times to make sure they aren’t being deceitful, that relationship isn’t healthy for either one of you.
Try and work through your trust issues. Don’t check their social media accounts constantly.
Remember this amazing quote –
“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.” – Osho
Remember to trust and nurture your flower.
Enjoy Your Independence
Although you are in a relationship, you are much more independent than the average couple.
This shouldn’t make you upset!
You get the best of both worlds as you have the love and support of your partner, and get to be 100% independent and in control of your time.
Learn to love your own company. Take yourself out to dinner, movies, hang out with your girlfriends. Anything!
Rediscover who you are, maybe even take up a hobby.
If taken advantage of, this is a great opportunity for you!
Also, make sure you encourage your partner to enjoy their independence as well. Encourage them to go out with friends, try something new, and better themselves constantly, even if you’re not there to share in the experience.
Make Seeing Each Other A Priority
Depending on just how far away you are, this one will vary.
But that is no excuse for not visiting each other. (Unless, again, one is deployed).
Even if you can only see each other once every six months, make it a priority and plan ahead.
Just knowing that you will see each other soon will give both of you a burst of joy and excitement that will help rekindle your love.
You know that feeling you get when you’re planning a vacation? The butterflies the second you book the flight until you actually get on the plane?! That’s what you both will be experiencing as you count down the days to see each other.
Make sure both of you are putting in an effort. If just one of you is taking the lead in the relationship and the other isn’t meeting them halfway, the relationship won’t make it.
You can’t be physically intimate because of the distance, but that shouldn’t stop you from opening up to your partner.
Be raw and real with them. Let them know what’s going on in your life, every little detail.
Try and open yourself up completely!
Being open and vulnerable with a person gives new depth to a relationship making it that more special.
If you keep things on the surface level, even the time you spend together won’t have much meaning to either one of you.
Long-term relationships only work if the two involved are open and honest with each other.
Are you currently in a longterm relationship? What are your best tips for dealing with the distance?
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