You may have been hitting it off with someone new, and then he hits you with the question, “do you want to come over to my place?”
Depending on how you feel about him, and how comfortable you are with him, this might make you excited, or it could make you feel quite nervous!
What does it mean when a guy invites you over to his place? Should you be ready for him to make a move or will it be more of a chilled hangout?
If a guy invites you over, there is a high chance he wants to take the relationship to the next level and become intimate. Even if his intentions are just to hang out, you shouldn’t accept a home date unless you’re ready to take things to the next level.
It might be difficult to try and work out what his intentions might be, and it could send you for a bit of a loop.
Read on to find out what it could mean when a guy invites you over to his place and how to respond accordingly….
What It Means When A Guy Invites You Over To His Place
He Wants To Make A Move
Simply, if a guy invites you over to his place, there is no doubt in my mind that he wants to take things a step further and make a move on you.
He might feel that he has the privacy and comfort to do this at his place, rather than out in public. He might even end up asking you to stay the night!
If your relationship is moving forward and you think he might want to take the next step, this is likely what he is hoping for.
It could be that he isn’t necessarily planning the evening at his place centered around this, but it could be something that he is hoping might happen.
If you think that this might be why he is inviting you over to his place, then you need to decide whether or not you are comfortable with this possibly happening.
If you are, then accept his invitation. But if you are not comfortable with it or ready for the next step, gently decline.
He Wants To Hang Out
It could also be the case that he really does enjoy your company, and he wants to spend more time with you. He probably thinks that the two of you can relax and be yourselves more when at his house, rather than in a restaurant or at a bar.
This could give the two of you more time to get to know each other on a more personal level, and just relax and play some video games or listen to some music. Whether or not something happens from there is up to the both of you together.
Just remember that even if there are no other intentions behind his invitation to his house, you still need to decide what you are comfortable with, and only go along if you feel that you could be at ease at his house.
Remember to clearly draw a line in the sand for yourself and only do or go where you feel at ease.
If you enjoy his company and trust him, hanging out at his place could be really fun, and a step forward for the two of you.
You won’t ever really know his true intention with a ‘home date’ so if you aren’t at a place to be intimate, I would still decline politely.
Maybe he really did want to show off his cooking skills and play some board games, but it can put you both in an uncomfortable situation if not.
Just remember, going over to a guys house, even if sex isn’t the first thing on his mind, will send mixed signals when you shut him down. This can lead to hurt feeling, bruised egos, yada yada, and if the relationship is going well, why risk it?
Will He Be Upset If You Say No?
It could worry you to say no to his invitation over to his place, in case he becomes upset with you or takes offense. You might feel as though you have to say yes, but this is not true!
Do not feel pressured to accept his invitation and always remember that the right guy will be understanding and will never try to force you into something that you are not happy with.
If you are not ready to take that step and hang out at his place, here is how to say no politely.
It is worth explaining to him why you are saying no, especially if you are interested in him and want to keep chatting. You might just not feel ready yet, and that is a perfectly fine excuse to give.
Explain to him that you are wanting to take things slow, or that you feel you are not at the right place to hang over at his home just yet.
Tell him you would like to get to know him a little more and wait for your relationship to develop further before heading over to his place.
By giving him an explanation, you are showing that you do actually care and are not just shutting him down completely.
If he’s truly interested in you, he will be perfectly fine with this and it won’t even cause a bump in the road.
If he was only interested in one thing then you’ll know based on how he starts acting moving forward.
Stick To Your Decision
He could be quite persistent and give you every reason under the sun as to why you should go to his place, even if you have said no multiple times.
Over time this could wear you down, but you have to stick to your decision. By giving in once, you show that he could get you to do everything he wants you to just by asking over and over again.
Once you have given him an excuse as to why you do not want to come over, he might try to find a loophole in your reason, or he might try and convince you he won’t make a move, but he could just be telling you what you want to hear.
Someone who cares for you will understand and respect your decision, and you just need to stay true to yourself.
Keep It Light
If you decide to not go to his place, make sure to keep things light and friendly when saying goodbye.
Give him a hug or a kiss (if you are at that stage yet) or a friendly text. This will help him understand that you do like him, you just aren’t ready yet.
What It Means When A Guy Invites You Over
Often, when a guy invites you over, it could be because he is wanting to take the relationship to the next level and make a move. It could also mean that he really enjoys your company and just wants to hang out.
The best option is to talk to him about it, see what his expectations might be, and then decide what you are comfortable with. Don’t force yourself into a situation that doesn’t make you happy!
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