A new relationship can be a whirlwind experience. You fall in love and want to spend every moment of every day with your new partner. It feels so right, and you just can’t get enough!
As exciting as a new relationship might be, it is so important to remember to take it slow. Nothing rushed ever ends well, and it is the same for relationships.
Why do relationships that move fast fail?
So it is not an exact statement, and not every relationship that moves fast fails, but there is a higher chance of a fast-moving relationship not lasting than if things are taken slow, and there is good reason for that.
It can be so difficult to resist rushing into a relationship with someone, especially if you think that they are ‘the one’, but it will pay off in the long run to do so.
Below is why relationships that move fast fail, and how you can avoid that happening.
Reasons Fast Moving Relationships Fail
Relationships come with so many different challenges and trials, and these do take time to get through. The truth is that some relationships make it through challenges stronger, and others do not make it through at all, but you need to give your relationship time to see if it will work or not.
Many of the emotions and qualities you need in a relationship, such as trust and loyalty, also only develop over time, and are not things that can be rushed. There is so much that goes into building a strong, healthy relationship, and these can’t be crammed into a shorter period of time.
Here are some of the main reasons why relationships that move fast fail:
You Don’t Know Each Other
It takes a long time to really get to know someone. You might know their favorite song and their comfort food, but do you really know them as a person?
Really knowing someone is understanding and accepting their good side and their bad. You need to know how they handle tough situations, and how they will be there to support you through your dark times.
You can really only know someone after quite a long time together, and rushing into a relationship does not help you skip any of these stages to reach the end quicker. You will not get to know them any quicker by rushing your relationship, and you might be stuck later on in a serious relationship with someone you really do not know.
You Might Not Be Compatible
Partners need to be compatible, and compatibility is something that you work on. It is so easy to feel as though you are fully compatible in the first few months of a relationship when you are still in the honeymoon phase. It is so easy to look past any personality issues or other small problems because you are viewing everything through rose-tinted lenses.
At the beginning of a relationship, especially if you move too quickly, you could ignore the things you would usually not agree with or any possible arguments. These seemingly small problems can grow into bigger compatibility issues, and they could cause much bigger problems down the line.
There is no way to know if you are compatible or not by rushing or moving too fast in a relationship, and you will only be able to tell how compatible you are by taking things slow and really getting to know someone for who they really are, and seeing if who they really are matches your personality!
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You Have Different Views
Moving too fast in a relationship and rushing through the normal ‘getting to know each other’ stage can leave you not really understanding the effect that having different views and morals might have.
It can be so easy to ignore different morals, views, and opinions when you are infatuated and have this whole romantic journey planned, but the truth is that having conflicting views and morals might be too big of a hill for your relationship to climb.
This does not mean that people with different views and morals might not last together, but you just will not know until you have given yourself the time to work through these differences and see if you are able to accept them from each other.
Sometimes these differences, such as religion or opinions, might be too much for you to accept or deal with, and when bigger problems arise, or there are bigger decisions to make, you might have views that are too conflicting.
You Haven’t Developed Trust
Trust is not something that develops overnight, and it takes a considerable amount of time to develop that feeling that you can really trust someone.
You might feel as though you can trust your partner after being together for a while, but when it comes to serious trust and loyalty, that deep connection only comes from being together for a long time and is not something that can be rushed.
Natural respect and natural understanding of each other is something that will develop over time and is such a strong building block of a relationship. Without this, there is no strong base for the relationship and this is one of the main reasons why relationships that move fast fail.
Reality Eventually Hits
The honeymoon stage of a relationship, especially one that has moved too quickly, does eventually come to an end. When this stage comes crashing down, reality will hit, and this can be so damaging to the relationship.
Eventually, their flaws will become irritating, and you might not be happy to look past some of the differences the two of you have. This all becomes a bit much and your view on them changes, and the same might happen for them as well.
When reality hits, the qualities that you thought you liked in your partner might not be the qualities that are actually important to make the relationship work, and you might realize that the two of you might not be compatible together.
You might wake up one day and realize that you are the one who puts in all the effort, and your partner is just along for the ride. You might have ignored this because you were so in love and you were happy to do so, but then it becomes a bit much and you realize that isn’t what you want out of your relationship.
Is It Bad To Move Too Fast?
Sometimes, love can be really difficult to resist, and moving quickly might seem like the right thing to do. In some cases, this has worked out fine, but for many, moving too fast in a relationship does more harm than it does good.
Moving too fast is one way to end up in an unhealthy relationship. You have committed yourself to this person without getting to know them first, and without getting to know what they might be like as a partner.
All the things you loved about them to start with could be insignificant traits, and when reality sets in and you realize who they really are, you might feel too stuck to leave.
A reason why so many relationships move quickly is that people are scared to be alone, and once they find someone who they feel will stick around, they try to lock it down quickly. As understandable as this is, you cannot just commit to the first person who comes along, as chances are they will not be right for you.
As much as you might feel the urge to, you should always try to take things at a normal pace, to get to know the person you are dating, and not to find yourself too deep into the relationship when you realize that the two of you should probably not be together.
Can You Fix A Relationship That Has Moved Too Fast?
If you wake up one morning and realize that your relationship has moved too fast, and you want to do what you can to save it, there are some things you and your partner can do to try and prevent your relationship from failing.
You need to slow things down. Before taking the next step or making an even bigger commitment to each other, you need to take a step back. Spend some time together without any pressure of moving forward. You could even start to see each other less for a while to have space on your own.
This gives you the opportunity to get to know each other for who you both really are, and see if you are happy with that.
You should both be open and honest with what you want out of a relationship, and if the two of you want the same things, then what is the point of rushing? Appreciate that you get to go through the milestones together and that the slower you take things, the more you get to enjoy along the way.
Taking it slow and not rushing a relationship is the best way to make it last, and to ensure that you have a deep trust and connection with the person you are wanting to be with.
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