It can be so confusing trying to work out whether a guy is interested in you over text, especially when they don’t just come out and say it!
You might be nervous that you are confusing friendliness with flirting, and the mixed signals he is sending definitely don’t help.
So, how do you actually tell if a guy is interested in you, or if he is just being friendly over text?
There are some signs that you can look for that show that he is flirting with you and that he is not just being friendly. On the other hand, there are signs to look for that he is just being friendly, and you might be reading into it a little too much!
Keep reading to find out how to tell if a guy is interested in you, or if he is just being friendly over text. We have covered signs that he is interested in you, and signs that he is just being friendly.
Signs That He Is Interested In You Over Text
Here are some of the signs to look for that show that he is interested in you:
He Responds Quickly
If he is interested in you, he will probably be really excited to receive your texts and to reply as quickly as possible to keep the conversation going.
Not everyone is on their phone 24/7, and he might have other commitments such as work or school, but he will still make an effort to reply to you as soon as he can.
Him being excited to reply shows that he is interested in you, and you might feel the same way waiting excitedly for his texts!
He Texts You First
He would make the effort to text you first if the two of you are not currently in a conversation. He wants to start talking to you, even if there really isn’t anything to talk about.
He could message you with a simple question of how you are doing or how your day is going just to get the conversation going.
By initiating conversation, it shows that he is interested in you, and wants to spend time during his day talking to you. If he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t be too worried about striking up a conversation.
Just keep in mind that this should not be the only sign – as friends also initiate a conversation!
He Asks About You
Someone who is interested in you would want to know more about you and to do this, he would ask you questions about your life and about you. He would want to know all there is to know about you, as you are on his mind all the time!
If he asks you about your past, your likes, and dislikes, and just about everything else, then it is a good sign that he is into you and he is interested in all there is about you!
Texts Are Fun And Light
The texts between the two of you are kept fun and light, and there might even be some personal jokes developing between you. While friends also joke over text, there is a bit of a more personal, flirtatious feeling to it.
He might even send you some emojis or gifs that are personal to the two of you, which bring a smile to your face. This shows that he wants to bring a little bit of happiness to your day and that he is interested in you and your happiness!
The development of personal jokes and familiarity between two people, even over text, is a good move in the right direction for the two of you to build a relationship.
He Is Flirty
So this might seem like quite an obvious sign, but not everyone is so great at picking up flirting, and not everyone is so good at putting their flirting out there!
If you notice that he sends slightly suggestive texts, or says things such as him wishing to be near you, then take it as a sign of flirting. The lines can be fairly blurry at times if he is a friend but is one who often says what comes to mind without a filter, but you should be able to tell if the flirting continues over some time.
You could always try to throw your own little flirty line out there and see how he reacts. This might feel risky and awkward, but it is one good way to work out how he feels and where he stands!
He Makes Plans To See You
When a guy is interested in you, he will not only want to text you often, but he will want to see you as well. You will know that he is interested in you if he texts you to make plans to meet up with you. He will want to see you and to spend as much time with you as he can.
Yes, it is true that friends also make plans to see each other, but if he is interested in you, he will most likely make plans for the two of you to be alone, and to do something where you can enjoy spending time together, such as going for a hike or going bowling.
He Keeps Conversation Going
When two people are interested in each other, the conversation should be easy. You can somewhat determine that he is interested in you if he keeps the conversation going, even when you are not putting in much effort.
He will continue the conversation by asking more questions and by changing the direction of the conversation to keep it going. This shows that he really enjoys talking to you, and he wants to be in contact as much as he can.
He Complements You
Complements from a friend are very different from complements from someone who is interested in you. He might send you texts complimenting you on more intimate things, such as telling you how beautiful you are, how gorgeous your laugh is, or how you have a great personality.
A friend can give you compliments, but they most likely won’t be as flirty or forward as this, and by him complimenting you, it is a good sign that he is interested.
Signs That He Is Just Being Friendly Over Text
All the above signs show that a guy might be interested in you over text, but you also need to know the signs to look for that he is just being friendly, which are below:
He Doesn’t Text First
If he is your friend but is not interested in you, his attention won’t be solely focused on you, so he probably won’t make much of an effort to text first unless there is a need to. Yes, he might very well be the one to send the first text, but it won’t be all the time, and he won’t always initiate conversation.
He Doesn’t Keep Conversation Going
Friends talk and joke over text, but there is a difference between friends talking and keeping the conversation going, compared to someone who is interested in you who keeps the conversation going.
There will be some effort to keep talking, but once the conversation is done, he will probably not push for it to carry on much further when he is just being friendly. There is not much else in it for him other than friendship, so there is nothing for him to work towards.
He Doesn’t Respond To Flirting
If you decide to take a leap and send him a flirty text, he might not respond to it at all or pretend that you never sent it. He might even come out and say that he doesn’t feel the same.
This is definitely a good way to determine how he feels, but it does involve you going out on a limb to try and work out where he does stand. You could always try to think of a clever text to send that leaves it quite open for him to either respond as a friend or to send you a flirty text back.
He Talks About Other Friends Too
If a guy is interested in you, he will probably just focus the conversation on the two of you, and only try to organize plans for the two of you to be together. If he is just being friendly, he will bring up other friends in conversation, and maybe even other girls.
When he makes plans, he would plan for a group of friends to see each other, which could show that he isn’t too worried about the two of you having one-on-one time together.
How To Tell If A Guy Is Interested In You Or Just Being Friendly Over Text
It can be so confusing when a guy doesn’t say outright whether he is interested in you or not, or at least make it clear over text.
For when you are unsure if he is interested in you or just being friendly over text, take a look at the above signs to try and work it out for yourself. You could always take a leap and put yourself out there first – but it does help to know a bit about how he feels first!
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