Guy Ignores Me But Talks To Others (WHAT TO KNOW)
There is probably nothing more infuriating than being ignored! Especially when the guy who is ignoring you talks to everyone else like nothing.
How immature is that?!
If you’ve noticed a guy will act differently with you vs. others, and are wondering what exactly is going on… We’ve got you covered!
Let’s dive deep into the reasons a guy would ignore you, what it means, and what you can do about it…
Reasons Why A Guy Ignores You But Talks To Others
He Has A Girlfriend
If the guy you like has a girlfriend, it’s possible that he is ignoring you out of respect for his relationship.
Especially if you have made it clear you are interested in him.
It could also be that the guy likes you as well but doesn’t want to disrespect his girlfriend or give off mixed signals.
He may still talk to others because he doesn’t see them as a threat to his current relationship.
In this case, it’s important to respect his decision and not push it.
Or maybe you don’t like him, but there could be something you don’t know. Perhaps he has a thing for you, or his girlfriend thinks he does, who knows…
But it’s just easier for him to ignore you than have problems in his relationship.
He Finds You Intimidating
Sometimes, a guy may ignore you because he finds you intimidating.
This could be because you’re successful, confident, or just generally intimidating to him.
He may feel more comfortable talking to others because he doesn’t feel as intimidated by them.
If you think this might be the case, just forget about it.
There is very little you can do (or should!) to tone down this ‘intimidation’ factor.
There will always be people in this world who will be intimidated by you and that’s NO reason to act small.
He Thinks You’re Not Interested and Has Given Up
If you’ve been ignoring the guy or giving him mixed signals, he may have given up on pursuing you.
In this case, he may still talk to others because his ego is bruised or he doesn’t want to seem like he’s waiting around for you.
If you’re interested in him, try to make it clear and give him a chance.
Avoid sending mixed messages and be very direct. Try and make and maintain strong eye contact.
If the guy talks to you at some point, play up the flirty factor.
He Is Shy
Some guys are just naturally shy and may have a hard time approaching you.
In this case, he may talk to others because he feels more comfortable around them.
If you think he’s shy, try to approach him first and make him feel more comfortable around you.
Take note if this guy talks to everyone, men and women alike, or just seems to ignore you.
If you notice he tends to avoid talking to other women, he could just be shy or have low self esteem.
You can make things easier by being the one to initiate conversation and see if he gradually becomes more comfortable.
You Remind Him Of Someone
Sometimes, a guy may ignore you because you remind him of someone he doesn’t like or has had a bad experience with in the past.
He may still talk to others because he doesn’t have the same negative associations with them.
If you think this might be the case, you can try to find out if there’s something specific that’s bothering him and address it.
But unfortunately, sometimes people have such strong, negative emotions attached to someone that being around someone who reminds them can be triggering.
You can spend time with him and get to know each other, but there is a strong chance the negative feelings will still linger.
He Finds You Offensive
If you’ve said or done something that the guy finds offensive, he may be ignoring you as a result.
He may still talk to others because he doesn’t want to cause conflict with them.
Think back to other interactions you’ve had.
Was there a moment you felt his energy shift.
Something you may have said or done? If you think this might be the case, try to apologize and make amends.
You Are Very Friendly
If you’re a very friendly person, the guy may be ignoring you because he thinks you’re just being friendly to everyone and not specifically interested in him.
He may still talk to others because he doesn’t want to seem like he’s waiting around for you.
If you’re interested in him, try to make it clear and give him a chance.
He may not want to develop feelings for someone if he feels they are flirty and not truly interested in him.
You Are Overthinking
Finally, it’s possible that you’re overthinking the situation and the guy isn’t actually ignoring you.
He may just be genuinely busy or have other things going on in his life.
Sometimes we get in our heads and think a guy ignores us, but they really are just thinking about a hundred different things and not realizing what they’re doing.
If you’re not sure what’s going on, try to talk to him and see if you can get a better understanding of the situation.
You can, of course, sit back and see if the situation continues. If it’s something that just happens once or twice or lasts a few weeks.
If it does last a few weeks, regardless of his reasoning, it’s best to move on. He won’t be a good friend to you in these situations.
What To Do When A Guy Ignores You But Talks To Others?
Ask Him Why He’s Ignoring You
If you’re confused about why a guy is ignoring you but talking to others, it’s best to go straight to the source and ask him why.
Be direct and honest with him, but avoid being confrontational or accusatory.
Try to approach him in a private and comfortable setting where you can have an open and honest conversation.
Be very open-minded about what he says. It may be a difficult conversation to have, but if you asked, you need to be respectful of his answer.
Whatever that answer may be.
if a person chooses to be upset over something, even if you don’t agree, you have to respect their feelings.
You can try to learn where they’re coming from and see if it’s something you can fix.
If you feel their reasoning isn’t valid or something you agree with, don’t get upset. Just realize you both are incompatible as friends and cut ties.
Ignore Him The Same Way
If you’ve tried talking to the guy and he’s still ignoring you, it might be time to take a step back and give him a taste of his own medicine.
Ignoring him the same way he’s ignoring you can be a powerful way to show him how it feels to be ignored.
However, be careful not to let this turn into a game of who can ignore the other person the longest.
But wait… isn’t this passive-aggressive?
Uhhhh… Kind of, but not really.
I’m not telling you to be petty and difficult.
However, if someone is ignoring you and talking to everyone else, you can’t go around being the sweetest human being to that person.
If they started ignoring you for no reason
Try To Engage Him In Conversation
If ignoring him back doesn’t feel right or hasn’t worked, try engaging him in conversation in a non-threatening way.
Ask him about his interests, hobbies, or work.
Try to find common ground and build a connection with him. Some people just need a little push to feel comfortable talking to someone new.
However, be prepared for the possibility that he might not want to talk to you, and be respectful of his boundaries.
Move On
If all else fails, it might be time to move on.
Sometimes, no matter how much we want someone to like us or talk to us, it’s just not meant to be.
Remember that there are plenty of other people out there who will appreciate you for who you are.
Focus on yourself, your goals, and your passions, and the right person will come along when you least expect it.
Do | Don’t |
Ask him why he’s ignoring you | Accuse him of anything |
Ignore him back | Turn it into a game |
Try to engage him in conversation | Turn it into a game |
Move on | Obsess over him |
Remember that you deserve someone who will treat you with respect and kindness, not give you the silent treatment whenever they’re slightly upset.
Don’t settle for someone who makes you feel ignored or unimportant. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
What To Do When A Guy Who Likes You Is Ignoring You
It can be incredibly frustrating when a guy you like suddenly starts ignoring you, especially when he seems to be talking to others just fine.
Here are some things you can do when you find yourself in this situation:
Give Him Space
It’s important to remember that everyone needs space sometimes, and it’s possible that the guy you’re interested in is dealing with something that has nothing to do with you.
Instead of bombarding him with messages or constantly trying to get his attention, give him some space to sort things out.
This doesn’t mean you have to completely ignore him, but try not to be too pushy or demanding.
Focus On Yourself
While it’s natural to want to fix things with the guy you like, it’s important to remember that you are your own person and should prioritize your own needs and well-being.
You shouldn’t be trying to fix something you didn’t break anyways!
Take this time to focus on yourself, whether that means picking up a new hobby, spending time with friends, or just taking some time to relax and recharge.
Communicate Honestly
If you’ve given the guy some space and still haven’t heard from him, it may be time to have an honest conversation about what’s going on.
Be clear about how you feel and what you want from the relationship, but also be prepared to listen to his side of things.
It’s possible that he’s just going through a rough patch and needs some support, but it’s also possible that he’s not as interested in you as you thought.
Move On
As hard as it may be, sometimes the best thing you can do is move on. If the guy is consistently ignoring you or showing little interest, it may be time to accept that he’s just not that into you.
Seriously. If someone just decides to suddenly ignore you for no reason, or isn’t adult enough to communicate that reason, they aren’t worth feeling sad over.
Not saying you can’t feel sad. We’re human. Allow yourself to be upset.
But realize that the silent treatment is an extremely toxic way to handle conflict and this man wouldn’t be a good partner or friend.
Always remember that there are plenty of other people out there who will appreciate and value you for who you are.
You deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect and kindness, and if a guy is consistently ignoring you, it may be a sign that he’s not the right person for you.
Focus on yourself, communicate honestly, and don’t be afraid to move on if that’s what’s best for you.
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