You start seeing this guy you really like. He is handsome, well-mannered, and kind. The only problem is, you’ve just met him and you sometimes don’t know what to talk to him about. Which topics are ok and which could hurt him and jeopardize everything?
What if the things you chose to talk about are going to bore him or make him think you are uninteresting?
There’s no fool-proof way to talk to anyone. But when it comes to blooming relationships, some guidelines could help you navigate awkward situations.
Easy Conversation Starters With A Guy You Just Met
Talk About Favorites
This might seem like boring advice, but it’s the easiest way to make sure you will always have topics to fall back on. If dialogue is stale, sprinkle questions about favorites throughout the conversation.
This isn’t just an easy way to create discussions, but it can also be helpful in understanding who the guy is. If he likes animals, you might figure out that he is kind.
If he likes extreme sports and just “manly” things, he could be a little toxic. In that case, you should consider inquiring about his morals.
Discussing favorites can help you get to know him better. This can better prepare you to organize better dates in places he likes, give him better gifts, and so on. Learning things about him makes you more thoughtful.
The more you can bring up things he likes in conversation, the more he will like you long-term. If he comes around and you already prepared his favorite drink, he will know you care.
Talk About Common Interests
Finding and discussing common interests can help consolidate new relationships.
When trying to find conversation topics, try asking about what their hobbies and interests are and pinpoint where you overlap.
If you both like art, the conversation might flow from why you got into art to details about the work of a certain artist you both admire.
Topics you are both passionate about will give you enough content to talk about for hours on end.
This is also why discussing favorites is important. It will show you what you both love and are interested in.
Having things in common can be the cornerstone of a relationship. To be able to do things together for years and years, you need mutual interests.
Otherwise, you will not have fun together long term.
Talk About Your Personal Life
While pressuring someone else about their personal life can backfire, you being open is a way to build trust.
Talking about your life experiences, memories, family, and so on will always make for good dialogue.
Telling stories about your childhood for example can make the guy laugh, or want to engage with what you’re saying.
Maybe he will share his memories and experiences, maybe he’ll also tell you about his family. This way you can get to know each other and build up trust.
Just be careful and try to not take over the conversation. Let him speak about his life too and be careful not to hurt him or push him into a triggering conversation.
Talk About Events Taking Place Around You
Always going to the same coffee shop might get boring. Having an environment that doesn’t incentivize fun conversations is also not great.
But talking about events taking place doesn’t only make for interesting dialogue. It can also show you what you can do together.
Say there’s a fair in your town, you might talk about the theme, who organizes it and so on. But you might also decide to go there together and have a great time.
Say there’s a protest for human rights, this might make for dialogue about your moral frameworks. This can help you figure out what he believes in and if you agree with his ethics.
Whatever events you choose to discuss, might help you avoid awkward silences while giving you a reason to do something new together.
Talk About Events The Future
Asking him about what he wants his future to look like is a great ice-breaker. Not only will you have something to talk about, but you will see if you would be compatible long-term.
People feel good when others show interest in their lives, and the future is not a touchy subject.
Knowing where he wants to live, what he wants to be and so on lets you see the real him. It will also help you understand his dreams, ethical framework, and desires.
Besides being conversation starters, talks about the future show you if the relationship is going to work or not.
If he wants to be in the army and that means he will never be around, you might consider not going into something serious with him.
If he wants to become a doctor and stay in the same city you want to live in, that might work for the both of you.
Talking about what you want from the future will also show him who you are and help him understand you better.
So far, we have talked about how to entertain dialogue in a way that helps you understand the guy. But sometimes deep and serious conversations might be ineffective.
They might be too emotionally exhausting to keep them flowing for long. Also, talk about interests and favorites can be forced and stale after a while.
If you want to make sure dialogue is never boring, and to break up the more serious discussions, try sprinkling in some humor.
Let loose and just have fun. This will make him laugh and show him you are fun to be around.
Showing him your goofy side will let you see if he will accept the real you. If he doesn’t like your jokes and the way you laugh, don’t even bother with him.
But if he’s a good one, he will engage with your humor and discussions will never go stale.
More Conversation Starters
s always, make these your own and get inspiration. Hopefully, just using one or two pointers here will get the ball rolling and the conversation will flow naturally.
If you find yourself on question number 17 then I hate to break it to you, there probably isn’t too much chemistry (unless he is just reaaaally nervous and not engaging)
- What’s your favorite sport?
- Where did you grow up?
- What shows are you into?
- What is your favorite meal or restaurant?
- What do you like to do when you have free time?
- What qualities do you like in a friend?
- What is something you’re willing to splurge on?
- What kind of music do you like?
- What kind of movies do you enjoy?
- Do you have any quirks?
- What’s your favorite drink?
- What job would you be terrible at?
- What skill would you like to master?
- Are you working on any passion projects right now?
- What do you wish you knew more about?
- How different was your life one year ago?
- What are some things you’ve had to unlearn?
- What do you do to destress?
- What’s something you like to do the old fashioned way?
- What would be your ideal way to spend the weekend?
- What is your pet-peeve?
- What game or movie universe would you like to live in?
- What are you interested in that most people haven’t heard of?
- What hobby would you get into if time or money weren’t an issue?
- What is somethng people are obsessed with, but you don’t get the point of?
As long as you are genuine and interested in who he is, you will never run out of topics to talk about. But, if you feel stressed, remember that asking him questions about himself, his favorites and interests always works.
To be more dynamic, talk about current events and hobbies and figure out what you could do together. And, remember, if everything else fails, try a little humor!
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